There is so much that could be said on this particular subject that a mere blog post couldn’t contain it all. As a matter of fact, there are several books on highly sensitive people, children included. I have read some of each.
As a mom to all girls, I already have a house filled to the brim with emotions, feelings, and even hormones. You can also add the fact that four of my five are highly sensitive children & soon flashes of a ‘Calgon Take me Away’ commercial will run through your mind, and mine.
(The one child I didn’t list is still sensitive, just not as much as the others. I only thought she was sensitive until I met her sisters. O.O)
This my friends, can be exhausting, especially if you have no idea what you’re dealing with or how to handle such people. This is why I’m writing this post to day. If you’re a mom with a highly sensitive child, I am here to tell you that you’re not alone. Even from infancy my babies were different. I had previously birthed two children that were not highly sensitive so I had no idea what I was dealing with when my first extremely sensitive one was born. I could walk that baby for hours sometimes and she still didn’t seem at ease. It was a very frustrating time.
My first highly sensitive child is why I became what some people refer to as someone who believes in ‘Attachment Parenting.’ That little girl was with me a lot. I even exercised with her right by my side as if she was glue, and even then it didn’t always seem good enough.
While other women had babies that would be happy anywhere, mine weren’t like this. Mine weren’t happy babies that slept all the time and then just enjoyed their surroundings when awake. They were bothered by a lot.
Here are some traits of highly sensitive children.
1. Sensitivity to loud sounds.
2. Sensitivity to bright lights.
3. Feelings hurt easily.
4. Seemingly emotionally imbalanced when not well rested.
5. Leery of strangers.
6. Screaming when upset.
7. Trouble unwinding before bed.
That’s just a few.
You may think I just described all children, but I assure you I didn’t. What would bother a normal child may very well send a highly sensitive one into a crying fit, their world seemingly falling a part in their little eyes.
I was blessed with my first highly sensitive little one 7 1/2 years ago. Her little life in the beginning was filled with crying, both hers and mine. As she and I both grew, and her mom learned about her needs, she is now much more controlled when it comes to her reactions to what she’s sensitive to. It is possible to not pull out all of your hair, should you have one of these little blessings in your life.
Here are a quick few tips if you have a Highly Sensitive Child
1. Do not belittle their emotions. Don’t justify their emotions if they’re not justifiable, but never act as if they don’t matter. Your child’s feelings do matter to you and you want them to know this. They can’t immediately control the way they feel yet you can teach them how to control their little actions.
2. Teach them ways to handle what bothers them so that they can prevent emotional break downs.
3. Have patience. For me this means reading my Bible regularly and praying. If you’re struggling with a highly sensitive infant that cries more often than not about everything, then my suggestion would be the same. Also, don’t be afraid to put your little one in their crib for a little bit while you walk out of the room to breathe and pray. You need to remain calm because they sense you. If they’re upset and you get upset, it will only cause a vicious cycle and no one wants that. Breath in and out. This too shall pass. 😉
4. Get creative. Highly sensitive children are typically creative little people from what I have seen and experienced. Find an outlet for their creativity.
5. Buy a diffuser if you don’t already have one and begin diffusing calming essential oils in your home. You can’t imagine how much this can help. There are many with calming properties. I use them and love them. Highly sensitive little ones typically have trouble winding down before bed. Pure Therapeutic Essential oils can aid you in relaxing your child so both of you can get a good nights sleep. I only use Young Living Essential oils because I know their purity. I also sell them for this very reason. If you’d like to know more, just ask.
Highly Sensitive children can be a challenge. They can also be a huge blessing.
I know from experience.